Attached - Amir Levine & Rachel Heller


By Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

  • Release Date: 2010-12-30
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
Score: 4.5
From 931 Ratings


We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."

In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.


  • Every person in the planet should read this book

    By Sarah Hale1
    Mind blown, I needed this book like 20 years ago. I have learned so much about myself and now have new tools to use.
  • This.

    By love,B
    This is what I needed, to accept myself as me and love myself enough to know how I need to be loved and better see the way I need to love those in my relationships.
  • Helpful

    By Flam98647942683
    My therapist had recommended this book and it completely helped me have a better understanding of my partner and myself
  • A must read for everyone

    By JBdesign29
    Such an informative and thought provoking read!
  • Everyone should read this!

    By Adriana Louise
    I wish I would’ve have read this book a long time ago. I probably would’ve understood myself much better. But I’m in a great relationship right now and will be applying what I’ve learned to it.
  • Must Read

    By jennifervillanueva
    I highly recommend this book, through doing research for a course, I had this book on my list and finished it quite quickly and received so much information I was looking for + tools + clarity and hope ❤️
  • Really Interesting

    By Aaajjjoooo
    This was a really interesting read. There are a lot of interesting concepts, but in places it felt like the authors were overly confident in making assumptions. I also feel like these types of books can over simplify peoples personalities.
  • Informing and interesting

    By ALD 97
    It was really detailed on how to go about changing certain situations and explaining the meaning behind different problems faced in anxious-avoidant relationships, while giving insight on how secure people act in relationships, how they have mastered it. He really hit the nail on the head. Recommend!
  • I learned something about myself!

    I enjoyed learning what my own & my wife’s attachment style is. Next time we have a disagreement, I’ll be sure to focus on the core issue and respond with a secure attachment.
  • Excellent

    By mellymel1991
    Lovedddd it. Easy to read great examples. I recommend to everyone!